So when I was pregnant with Ethan I kept a running list in my head of things that really bothered me when it came to pregnancy and people's perceptions of pregnant woman. The this included my own feelings, comments people made, or just things in general about pregnancy...
So here is my list that I have now. Some are repeats of when I was pregnant with Ethan, but some are new since times have changed in the past two years.
1. Pregnancy is not in the water. I cannot stand that staying "must be in the water"...I think we all know how it happens, so just own up to it and do not be ashamed of it!
2. Unless I say it is okay, do not assume you can just touch my belly. If I do not know you, why would I let you touch my belly? If I do know you (unless you are my husband, son, or parents) it would still be nice of you to ask. I already feel as big as a house so I do not really need you touching me too.
3. "Does it have a weight limit?" Now I must laugh at this because my own husband said this to me
when I put Ethan's toddler bed together. I am sure it does have a weight limit but I had to show him how to use his bed, and it didn't break, so lay off! :)
4. Not being able to breath stinks and being kicked in the bladder is no fun.
5. Having to roll out of bed is not as fun or funny as people think it is.
6. C-sections are MAJOR surgeries so when you scoff or make comments like "it is just a c-section" you've probably never had one and you would not understand. It is a MAJOR surgery and it takes longer to recovery from a c-section than a vaginal delivery, so keep your comments to yourself!
7. Swelling is no fun and knock on wood, I have not had any yet. My rings still fit, my shoes still fit, and I do not feel like an Oompa Loompa walking (yet).
8. Ethan it's not appropriate to smack mommy's belly trying to play it as if it were a drum. If you do not watch out, your brother is going seek revenge on you one day!
9. Just because I am pregnant does not mean I will eat anything that is offered to me. In fact, it means I will eat more of one particular food than a variety of foods.
10. If you see a pregnant woman waiting to cross the street, let her cross! It's hot outside people and having another life incubating inside of you makes it twice as hot.
11. Stop asking me if I am pregnant. I am almost 32 weeks pregnant, you've had a good 20 weeks to ask that question, now I am clearly pregnant. If people do ask, I generally answer "no". You should be able to just tell.
12. I know I've gained weight, but you do not need to draw attention to it. Usually when bigger people say something about it ("oh you're so big") I usually want to respond (but never do) "I'm pregnant, what's your excuse?"
The list goes on and on but those are some of my favorites. Be considerate when it comes to pregnant woman and cut them some slack, it's not easy creating something so perfect!
Until next time....